Nov 192020
Some Heartwarming Children’s Books about Loss, Grief and Death of a Loved One.
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When #kbcMember Amardeep lost her grandfather, and she was to travel to her parents’s place with her son, she posted a query: “When we go there he will ask questions about why he isn’t there. Are there any books that can explain death, albeit in a light way, to a 3 yr old?”

That’s when we realised we needed to curate a list of books that would help children understand the concept of loss and death. And that it’s okay to feel sad.

Over the next few months owing to the pandemic we started getting many more requests for such books. We have put together a list of books recommended by our members.

For 3+ years

The Sea Saw by Tom Percival for (2-5 years). It’s about a little girl’s teddy getting lost.

Big Cat, Little Cat (3-6 years) – A 2018 Caldecott Honor Book, it’s about how the older cat goes away and doesn’t come back.

Books by Cori Doerrfeld (3-5 years)

Goodbye Mog (3-5 years)

Badger’s Parting Gifts (3-5 years)

The Great Storyteller (3.5-7 years) from Scholastic

Anusha recommended this on Amardeep’s post and Asha eventually got it. Quoting Anusha:

The Great Storyteller is a beautiful story about animals in a jungle. The wise elephant is the great storyteller until one day he isnt. The book shows how sadness befalls the jungle, and how the friends work through it.

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Missing Mommy: A Book About Bereavement (3-8 years)

A Friend For Dragon by Dav Pilkey for 3-6 years from Scholastic (it’s an Acorn book so children between 4-6 can even read it by themselves). Asha has this book and highly recommends it. In her words:

It’s a very poignant as well as uplifting book which can help a small child understand the concept of separation and death in a non complicated way as the story revolves around an apple. The lovely illustrations and the dragon’s feelings make it a heartwarming read that makes it easy for a pre-schooler to understand and most importantly, accept loss.

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Anuradha Khaitan Gupta recommends Dance like a Leaf (apt for 2.5/3 years+ and The Garden of Hope for 3-6 years which is about the loss of a parent.

The Scar Neerja recommends this in one of her posts. Quoting her mini review from this post: “This is a book about losing a parent. This book helped me tremendously in making my daughter understand the death of her dad and it helped her comprehend the concept of “death” a bit more.”

My Superhero Grandpa: A Story for Children Who Have Lost a Loved One

The Rabbit Listened (3-5 years)

For 4+ years

Usborne: Lift-the-flap – Why Do Things Die? (4-6 years)

Cry, Heart, But Never Break  (4-8 years)

Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs (4-8 years)

The Memory Box: A Book about Grief (4-8 years) – what a lovely concept! We should all create a memory box of the people will love.

The Heart and the Bottle by Oliver Jeffers (4/5-8 years) – another highly highly recommended book

The Invisible String (4-8 years) – this comes highly recommended to deal with any kind of separation anxiety, helps to cope with grief and loss.

Life is Like the Wind (Big Hug Books) Tejaswi recommends this book. Quoting her:

This is an absolutely amazing book about death, which has been brought about very simple and smoothly. It doesn’t speak about grief in particular for loss of a dear one, but rather puts a light on the fact that life itself is like that – one day it ends. All the different cultures that say different things about what happens after has been talked about, which gives the reader a comfort zone making them think about what could have really happened afterwards, rather than emphasizing on the loss that the family member maybe facing.

For 5+ years

The Ammuchi Puchi for 5-9 years depending upon reading levels and emotional maturity

Asha has this book and highly recommends it for 5+ years. It talks about the death of a grandmother whose grandkids were very attached to her. And how they find a way to celebrate her memories.

Boo! When My Sister Died by Richa Jha. Illustrated by Gautam Benegal Age group: 4/5 – 8 years. Asha, on this book: 

If you ask who should read this book, I’d say any child who has lost a sibling or a family member who is mature enough and ready to understand the concept of death; also for a parent who has lost a child. This book directly talks about the death of Noorie’s sister Zoya, how she misses playing with her and how she knows Zoya won’t come back. It shows the child going through grief, being angry, struggling to cope with the loss of her sister – her true playmate, and then accepting that she can move on with the help of Zoya’s friend Dhara, despite missing Zoya. She comes to terms with her sister’s death and accepts Zoya’s memories will always be with her. This is a poignant book with Gautam Benegal’s impactful illustrations that shows a child’s journey of dealing with death through enormous anger, grief and acceptance. It’s a tough topic to handle but Richa & Gautam together have created a beautiful book – almost like a poetic piece of poignant art that draws you to it, over and over again.

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Gone Grandmother (English) 

Gone Grandmother/Nani Chali Gaiyen (Hindi) 

Duck, Death and the Tulip 

Fox: A Circle Of Life Story for 5 yrs+ on what happens after an animal’s death and how each dead organism contributes to the natural ecosystem. it’s a scientific explanation. Member Pooja Rathod has shared a detailed review in the group. 

Grief Is Like a Snowflake (5-8 years)

Grandad’s Bench (5-8 years) – Neerja recommended this to Amardeep. Quoting her, “Grandad’s Bench has a beautiful story about the relationship between a grandfather and grandson and how the grand dad falls sick and passes away. It’s told in such a beautiful way but is a little advanced for a 3 year old. I feel you can buy it for your reference and take cue from it on how to narrate the whole thing to your kiddo.” 

Michael Rosen’s Sad Book (5-7 years)

The Miracle on Sunderbaag Street (for 6-8 years) by Nandita da Cunha (also a kbc member!) is a beautiful book about a girl who deals with the loss of her mother with the help of her craft teacher in the most inspiring way. This is more about moving on while cherishing your loved one’s memories. Read Amardeep’s detailed review here.

Holes in the Sky (6-9 years) This book gently introduces the concept of mortality of grandparents. 

The Yellow Suitcase (6-10 years)

When Grandpa died for older kids (reviews on amazon mention a 9 yo)

Heartfelt thanks to Neerja, Tejaswi, Anuradha, Amardeep, Cauvery, Anusha, Pooja for contributing to this post. Shout-out to #the13yearold for curating this post from the facebook group.

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